Heather has two mommies.

There is a baby, maybe two in my future. Tiff and I have decided now is the time to start trying.

She will carry- I've already had a miscarriage, and at 39 I'm not the wisest choice, not when Tiff is just 32 with no known issues.

We have a close friend who's offered to be donor, and we plan self insemination at home by ourselves. The donor will also contribute to a sperm bank on our behalf in 18 month or so when he has a vasectomy- he is already father to several and his partner would like to stop taking the pill as a means of not having more.

 The last few weeks have been a whirlwind of planning. Tiff has removed her implant, we've seen the GP, started her on a folic acid supplement.

We've a referral to a lesbian Obstetrician at the Mater Hospital, which is good, as we will be going interstate to NSW for the birth, and Tiff has already decided the Mater in Sydney is where she wants to give birth. We still need to find an interstate Dr willing to coordinate with the Brisbane ones leading up to the birth.

Why the travel for birth? In NSW, we can both he recognized as legal parents on the birth certificate, where in Qld, that is not possible. It's vital to us that we have equal recognition, so Tiff will take the last month of her pregnancy and spend it in NSW. With 43 flights between Brisbane and Sydney a day, and me working next to the airport, I'll just have a bag packed and be ready for a call in the first weeks, then spend the last week down there with her.

We've dreamt big, and have picked out nursery furniture, though we have stopped short of complete madness by not dropping 3 grand on furniture before we are actually pregnant. And a ridiculous amount of punk/goth clothing on a wishlist. We've both agreed we wish to go fairly unisex- though not to the extreme of those who try to raise a genderless child. We have names picked out.

We are impatient, excited, and utterly terrified:)